Deprived of Socialization?

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I wrote this late one night and thought I would post it here.


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Deprived of Socialization?


 


In the news recently, one of the local school districts was being sued for the *third* time.


 


“A third lawsuit has been filed against the Anchorage School District, claiming the district was negligent in dealing with a 6-year-old boy's assaults on a female classmate.”


 


Why would I want this kind of socialization for my young innocent children?  Does the Bible not command me to not only bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, but to protect them as well?


 


Numbers 32:17 says, “Meanwhile our women and children will live in fortified cities, for protection from the inhabitants of the land.”


 


They are not strong. They should be protected and they must be trained.


 


2 Timothy 3:15 states what is required as a parent, “And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.”


 


Why?


 


Acts 2:39 tells us, “For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the LORD our God shall call.”


 


In Deuteronomy 4:9 God reminds us to “only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.”


 


Our job doesn't stop when *our* children have been trained! We must continue on with our grandchildren.


 


Deuteronomy 4:10 Assemble the people before me to hear my words so that they may learn to revere me as long as they live in the land and may teach them to their children.


 


How are we to teach them?


 


Deuteronomy 11:18-20 Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your soul, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. 19And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates:


 


No, I will not expose my children to this kind of socialization rather I will protect them and guide them until they ARE strong in the Lord.


 


Proverbs 14:26 In the fear of the LORD is strong confidence: and his children shall have a place of refuge.


Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.


Joshua 10:25 And Joshua said unto them, Fear not, nor be dismayed, be strong and of good courage: for thus shall the LORD do to all your enemies against whom ye fight.


 


I will not send my children into battle.


 


1 Chronicles 22:13 Then shalt thou prosper, if thou takest heed to fulfil the statutes and judgments which the LORD charged Moses with concerning Israel: be strong, and of good courage; dread not, nor be dismayed.


 


And God will bless us for it.

B needs glasses

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Well, I took the boys in to the eye doctor on Tuesday.  B has made a few comments about not being able to see very far with one of his eyes, so I figured he needed glasses, but I didn't realize how bad it was!  He sees 20/20 in his right eye, but his left eye is 20/200!  He wasn't very happy at first, but he is getting used to the idea of wearing glasses.


I asked the doctor to show B the correct way to read a book.  He handed B a magazine, and asked him to hold it the way he normally would.  B promptly set the book on his right knee.  The doctor grinned, looked at me and said, “See how he favors the right side already?”  It was really amazing.  I never noticed that he only read with his right eye before.  He now has to learn to read again, using both his eyes together.


So, we ordered glasses for him (!)  It will be such a nice change for him to be able to see with both eyes!  Once he gets his glasses, he will actually be seeing 20/15!  They should be back in time for his 10th birthday.  He thinks he looks dumb in his glasses, that glasses don't look good on his face, but I think he will enjoy seeing so much, he won't mind once he has them.  Besides, I think he looks very sharp in them.  I will post a picture of him once he gets them.

Dh’s gone/Saturday

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Well, the kids and I dropped dh off at the airport on Friday.  Life without my man began.   We started out the evening by going to the biggest used bookstore in town!  We had a lot of fun, and found some good books to take home with us.  Then we headed out to my parents place, where I dropped off the older two boys to spend the weekend with them.


I made my way home, stopping to pick up a few things, but it is amazing how long things take sometimes with three little ones.  Between changing diapers, nursing, getting food for I and N, taking them potty, etc. it really adds a *lot* of time to shopping!  We drug into home pretty late.


The next morning, I woke up in a fright!  I looked at the clock, and it was 8:07am.  Oh, no!  I thought I was late for leaving for church!   We have to leave by 8:30am in order to get there in time.  I jumped out of bed and was heading down the hallway to wake up the kids when I heard N coughing on the couch.  I went out to her, scooped her up, and was carrying her down the hallway, before I realized that it was only Saturday!  Doh!  I must have really been paranoid about being late on Sunday!


After running some errands around home for most of the morning, I spent most of the day putting an illustrated scripture book together for my friend T's “Mommy” shower, which was Monday night.  I had the best time working on that!  I think I will keep adding more verse cards and make one for myself!  They turned out so cute!


It turned out that my MIL's company was having their Community BBQ on Saturday night, so the kids and I headed up to Talkeenta for that.  I invited a friend of mine to come, picked up my MIL from work, and we went down the the boat dock.  Free dinner!  It was so nice not having to fix dinner just for the three of us!  My BIL B took I and N out for the free boat ride, and then I was coerced into going for the second one.  M stayed awake for most of the trip, but when the driver started sharing his expertise by demonstrating how to do a 180 in the water, M promptly fell asleep!  LOL!  I told Steve (the owner) that he had bored M to sleep.  Steve got a kick out of that.  After that, I took the kids and my friend and her kids down for ice cream cones in town, then drug our tired bodies back home.


N’s test

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N was such a trooper at her test on Friday!  Daddy and I were so proud of her.  Dh said she didn't even flinch when they put the needle in her arm, and only flinched a little when they took it out.  Dh took N into the test room while I sat in the waiting room with the four boys.  I went in to check on N a few times, and she was laying on the table, stock still.  They didn't want her to move for 30 minutes, and she knew it.  She would hardly even smile at me!  Dh read Highlighs magazines to her from the waiting room.  Oh, and she didn't have to undress or void on the table!  Yea!


As soon as we got out of the building, she cheered right up, and was bragging a little about what a brave girl she was…  On the way home that night though, out of the blue, she did say, “Mom, I like Dr. Y better.  He only does things that don't hurt.”  Dr. Y is her regular MD that helps me out when she gets UTI's.  So, she had obviously been thinking about it.


I will make sure I post when we get results.


Trying for N’s test again

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Well, we are heading into town in the morning to try once again to get N's Nuclear Renal Scan done.  Please pray for comfort for her.  The test is scheduled to start at 11am.  I believe the test will last for an hour.  She has to lay still on a table, have an IV, and if I remember correctly, she has to void on the table.  She will need a lot of prayer tomorrow.  Please lift her up, and Mommy and Daddy too if you will!


I got a surprise last night!

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As I wrote before, dh usually has to stay in town on Wednesday nights so he can spend two full days at his office.  Well, last night, he had to meet a man at our property about a bid on pouring the concrete for the basement.  He decided that since he was already halfway home, and was going to be leaving for a week, he would come home!  He willingly drove an extra 2 hours out of his way just to spend the night with ME! (well, I am sure he wanted to see the kids too…)


We had a very enjoyable evening together, and I thanked him over and over again for coming home.


Thank you honey!   You were so thoughtful to do that for me.  I am *so* blessed by God with such a wonderful, thoughtful, kind, loving, faithful, hardworking husband.  I will miss you terribly while you are gone.


What Every Child Should Know Along the Way

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I just got this book in the mail yesterday.    It is “a practical, hands-on  and easy-to-use guide that shows moms and dads how to teach practical life skills to their children and encourage habits of godly living.” (Excerpt from the back)


In the Forward, I read that we as parents must first learn these skills and traits in order to instill them into our children.  It is not enough to “tell” them to do these things, and act a certain way, but we must be living examples to our children of godly living.  What a hard task that is set before us.


The author has even included a Practical Living Skills Checklist, which she says can be freely photocopies for use with each child in the family.  This is a very interesting list!  Many of the things on the list my children already do and know, but there are some things that I didn't even think to touch on at this age.  It is amazing how intelligent our children are, and how much they can accomplish even at the youngest of ages.  And they *love* to learn at very young ages!  N and I were having a ball today, begging me for another job to do, even exclaming, “No, this is *my* job!” when someone tried to help them.


I am very excited to read this book, and helping myself to develop good habits and work on some character flaws in my life.  It should be a real eye-opener.


Janet

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I just wanted to add a little more about my good friend Janet.  She is a Christian stay-at-home, homeschooling mother who has 12 beautiful (or handsome!) children.  She has 9 cute grandchildren, and is very involved in all of their lives.  She has also been married for 31 years.  All of this, and she doesn't hesitate to help one of us younger women along in our daily tasks.  I praise God that He has seen fit to bless me through my friendship with Janet, a godly Titus 2 woman.  Janet, you will always be counted among my blessings from God.  May God be with you and hold you up as you have comforted me.  God bless you Janet, more than He already has.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart.


Your sister in Christ,


Grace









Today was a great day!

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I started off the morning talking to a wonderful dear friend of mine in Canada.  She is such a beautiful person.  She has been helping me to get my life back on track.  She inspired me so much!


I got the kids up (a little late though) and after they had done their morning routines (get dressed, make beds, put pjs away, eat breakfast, do chores) they helped me start cleaning the house.  A is doing the dishes this month, so he unloaded and reloaded those, and cleaned out the microwave.  A just finished the dishes and came up to me and asked, “Now what would you have your faithful servant do?”


B wipes the tables and stove and does the laundry this month, so he did those and scoured the stove down.  It looks so nice!  Then he disappeared and I figured he was in his room devouring a book, but when I called him, he said he was in his sister's room cleaning it.  He had started cleaning his room, but when he put something away in his sister's room, he realized how messy it was, so started doing that instead.  After he finished with her room, he practically begged me to help him start the lawn mower for him, and I was actually able to start the old rusted thing! (It used to belong to my in-laws.)  Well, he got the lawn mostly mowed and then A took over for him, after he picked up rocks and sticks that had migrated to the lawn over the winter.


I started out the day wiping down the Toyo stove (heater).  He did a great job on it, wiping down all of the little slats where the heat comes out, the sides, the front, and the base.  Then he helped N wipe down the school bookcase and they decided they needed to wipe down my copier too.   After they finished that, he asked what else he could do, so I had him take out the burn trash to the burn barrel and sweep off the steps.


N started out by wiping down the school bookcase followed by the copier.  Then, she took all of the baskets off of the shoe rack and wiped the shelf off.  When she put the baskets back, I had her empty all of the winter hats and gloves out of them, and shake the dirt out.


Meanwhile, I emptied out the dining room and swept out from under my desk, in front of the Toyo, under the table, around the school cabinet and shelves, and between the diningroom and livingroom.  Then I sorted out a bunch of papers and magazines, throwing a bunch in the garbage, filing several others, and now have a few things to put away with the school supplies.  After that was (mostly) done, I swept up the entryway and shook out the front mat, started a roast in the crockpot, and helped B start the mower and pick up rocks and sticks.  Oh, A and I also moved the picnic table so B could mow under it.


I also nursed the baby twice, and made peanut butter and honey sandwiches for the kids for lunch.  And it's only 1pm!


B is now getting the laundry going again, I is wiping down the school cabinet, A and N are (supposed to be) cleaning the boys room, and M is sitting here “helping me” type.


Better get going and fold laundry, clean my room, vaccuum all the carpet, and sweep the kitchen and diningroom.  Maybe we will get it so clean that I will take pictures!


“New” dresses for N

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My “mother-in-love” brought over some dresses for N today that dh's sister K used to wear!  K is now 19 years old, but my MIL had saved these dresses in a cedar chest, and they even survived the fire that destroyed my in-laws home several years ago!  The dress that K wore to my wedding was in there too, but it is still way too big for N.  There are 10 dresses in all! 


A few of them are a bit big on her, and some of them are not really the kind of style I have been encouraging, but I am certainly not complaining!  I also just bought two dresses on Ebay for her and those came in the mail too, so now she is really set for clothes!  Praise God!